There has been an another implied attack on me is this thread. That is fine, I am accustomed to such things, and whilst I get some complaints saying that I am too strict and some saying that I am too lenient in my interpretation of the rules I will have to assume that I am getting it about right. If I were to get no complaints it would mean that I was not doing anything - hold on, then I would get complaints about that too.

I do welcome people telling me in a constructive way when they think I have made a mistake, it gives me the opportunity to reconsider something and correct it if needs be. This is why when posts are 'deleted' they are only removed to a recycle bin from which they can be rescued if needs be.

The same applies to the chat room. Probably the only way to run such a facility without getting any complaints is not to run it at all. And then we would get complaints about no chat room. AC38 owns and runs the chat room, and does so as he sees fit, with the help of his team of mods.

I am sorry that this thread has been started, I closed Red's original one since I was concerned that things would be said which would be counterproductive to relationships. I knew there would be complaints about that, and there were.

I hope that by not closing this thread now, I am not making a big mistake, and appeal to anyone who is going to post to it, to not let it drift into the tangled web of "he said, she said" which AzraelCoburn mentioned but to a demonstrate maturity and consideration for everyone concerned. Please remember that behind each of the ID's you see here, even if it someone who has a staff position here or in the chat room, there is a real person with very real feelings who, particularly due to the media we use, can potentially be hurt in ways we cannot see.

Many people enjoy using the room, whilst some have decided that it is not to their tastes. If there really is a need or desire to have this discussion then please keep it constructive.

cariad