Psynymph, I know your motives were right, even though I personally wish you had not opened this thread. And fear not - I am not offended.

I am however very concerned that this thread could lead to emotive posts which could lead to flaming which almost certainly will lead to people being banned from the site. And that is something I really do not wish to happen.

We are all adults, and we should all be able to discuss this issues in a calm and constructive way, but history has shown that is not often the case.

My sincere wish is that nobody leaves the site as a result of this thread, either because they are banned or because they are hurt. Only the people who post to it can make that wish come true.

cariad