i have thought of many things i might say in response to these posts...

the one thing i keep coming back to is... no matter WHAT i say or HOW i say it it will be seen as "taking sides" and i will lose friendships out of it...

And honestly... THAT is what pisses me off and makes me the saddest... a catch 22 situation, no matter what is said....

Do i fully agree with what some on both sides have done? no.
Do i understand some of their emotions, etc. that added to the outcome and their responses? i am trying too.
Does that excuse any of the behavior? No

But, just as that does not excuse any of the behavior the emotions, etc. are what make us human...and flawed. Life would be boring otherwise. And that same human nature is what allows us the options to forgive and come together or to hold onto anger and perhaps lash out... We all make errors in judgment. The real test is how we respond when called on the carpet about those errors or how we respond when we have been given an apology.

So... where does that leave me (and others in the same spot)? Feeling as though no matter what i will ultimately end up having to "choose" a side or will be "not as trusted" because i am still friends with so and so, etc. No one should have to go through that in a place that they love and feel secure... nothing is left if they do.

So, when that happens (and human nature i'm sure it is just a matter of time) i will leave... being once again wiser for the knowledge, friendship and love shared and mourning for lose of the same...