Quote Originally Posted by Jadetiger View Post
Psynymph,
Thank you this topic. it has been long over due. My experiences in chat have had an impact on my forum posts as well. I used to live in chat as well as share my bdsm experiences on the forum. I rarely go to chat anymore do to the issues mentioned by many. I did stop by recently but realized noting had changed. It is very sad that a place that once was home for many is no longer so. I personally choose not to be apart of a chat where bullying and intimidation is used in the guise of respect so someone else can control me or others. I am not a rude person by nature so watching what was happening in chat was more than I could stomach. So it is my choice not to go there any more.
That is how I see it. Those who do not bend and "fall in line" are soon gone.

From the chat rules page.
CHAT RULES & GUIDELINES:

ROOM ADMINISTRATOR: AC38 (XXXX)

First and foremost show RESPECT! If you do not use respect at all times you will lose your chat privileges!

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Respect can have many levels...
I think respect is a very objective thing on the boards.
Also Respect is not always a certainty but is something that has to be earned.
There is only a very modest level of respect that is given freely to anyone. Civil respect. This is a level of respect that every one gets. Even people you meet on the street or at a store. And it works both ways, that is something often forgotten .
But it would seem that most ( those who have higher levels/positions) want the kind of Respect that is given to Royalty or Honored as those who have done something extraordinary are ... That just isn't going to happen in an online deal. IF it does happen it has to be earned. Not demanded.
Respect of a higher level is one which must be earned to be maintained and that is the problem here. It isn't earned and maintained daily.
Respect is given when it is deemed able and desireable, not because someone says you will respect me in a manner which pushes them above others ...
Another thing.. Respect is not given to things. they do not do anything to earn respect. No thing, whether that be a book or an idea or a situation is worthy of respect IMO. It is silly to demand such.
Think of it like this :
" You will respect my plate of sphagetti. "
see how odd that sounds ?

I also find it very odd that many see something wrong and others don't see anything at all.
makes me wonder ....

Ok i will end my long post on this and hope someone finds it valuable.