Before I answer, I have a question for you, Psynymph- when you say you are in a poly relationship, but don't have a sister, what does that mean? Is it what some would call an "open" relationship (within D/s, I would understand it's controlled by Azrael.) just curious.

Anyway, well, you may or may not have read my post on polyamory in a thread started elsewhere on the topic... but I have recently begun in a new relationship- a triangle, as you said. One master, two slaves.

She and I are both equally loved by Master, I'm sure (and I'm always asking questions to make sure- yeah, I'm a little high-maintenance lol). They did have their relationship stable (3 yrs) before I came in- I think you're right about that- it's important for you and Azrael to be strong together first- unless you and your sister were coming to Him at the same time.

But anyway... although my relationship is new... the way it's been so far has been... equal... between the three of U/us. joie and i love each other- in a sisterly, nurturing way... i could never dominate her, nor she i, because neither have us have those desires or ever have had dominant desires in our lives.

At the same time, we both love Master and focus on Him. i see our triangle as a planetary system: Master is the planet, and we are the moons around Him... something like that. we (joie and i) never and i don't foresee us ever bumping heads... because we have a common goal: to serve and please our dear loving wonderful Master And so of course, allowing strife between joie and me would certainly upset Master... W/we three would all squash it by talking about it. Master is always willing to communicate with me on these things- and i'm constantly asking all kinds of things. But W/we, Master really, would never allow anything to build up.

So... the trick is to have a good master who can handle two slaves, or subs- b/c yes, that is a lot to do. That master should be very communicative and encourage communication between the triangle, and work on ways to nip anything in the bud- because if the three of you really love each other, and the two slaves really love the master... why should there be any problems that can't be worked out?

Sorry... I hope this made some sense...