Quote Originally Posted by allalone46
Ok I have been on this and other sites and have been chastised(not here) when I inadvertantly refered to my self as a master even though I was never trained, nor mentored, nor had a slave. That is basicly why I refer to myself as a Dom and not a master, I have all the tendinsys and desires of what BDSM_Tourguide saids is a master tough I haven't had nor at this time have a slave (not for lack of looking) but becouse I was dresed down by others in this. And no I don't believe that thay were old guard but just ones with more knolage than I had a the time. Been studying a wile, and still learning.
Now having others chastise you for your choice between Dom and Master is a new one on me. I've seen this before particulary in reference to submissive, slave, bottom etc. It must be an internet thing.

As TG pointed the choice of title for the most part is a quick way to advertise your preferences, similar to the "Hanky Code". So the choice of title is up to you.

In my experience it has mostly been since the publishing of BDSM books and the internet that the self tought avenue has come about. Prior to this, as was my case, you had to find someone to teach and mentor. Not to mention finding a partner. Another difference in the old and new is that many Doms etc would have begun their BDSM life on the bottom. But the one of the most important things that has caried over to the self tought arena is the concept of the mentor. Even though I have been arround a while I still need the wisdom and advise of others and someone to teach me the new things I want to learn.

Now TG I'm one for anaigies but I wouldnt have thought of that one. :rofl: So what the heck did I do to deserve 30 years?

P.S. Spell check is on the fritz.