Quote Originally Posted by moptop View Post
As far as seeking guidance goes, I think that anyone who is sincerely interested in bdsm relationships - as opposed to just getting some kinky sex - will always seek guidance and to learn from others. Anyone who doesn't falls into the wannabe class for me. We're all only human!
I think that is an important part of our journey into this lifestyle - the balance between kinky sex and D/s. Some like all one, some all the other, and most a varying balance. No mix is intrinsically better than the other, only better for that particular person.

A number of people who I have met from this site are struggling either because they have not yet found the right combination for themselves, or have not accepted it.

Sorry I know that is slightly off topic, but it is something I feel strongly about, so was unable to keep quite when I saw moptop's post.

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