Quote Originally Posted by slavelucy
What an inciteful point, DngnKeeper. And i think you're right. Certainly i wouldn't have a problem learning one particular physical thing with someone else for my Dom, because technically, i'd still be doing Ds with my Dom, not A.N.Other. i also don't have a problem with getting to know other people a bit and finding one's feet that way...but it's this whole notion of stable fulls of subs, training under someone in preperation for someone else...that's not Ds and i just don't get it.

sl
sl, you are absolutely on point with your observation. D/s is so much dependent on emotions and feelings and the interaction between the Dominant and submissive. While you can train someone in a task, or to learn a skill, you can not train them in how they feel toward a Dominant or how they interact with that Dominant. This is what the relationship journey is all about. Discovering new things (even things that you have done 100 times with others, are new again with a new submissive).
So if someone asked me to be "trained" I would clarify what they wished to know. As ssaid above, if they wished to learn how to flog or some skill that can be taught. But training as a submissive needs a relationship- deep, personal and committed. So much of the relationship is learning to trust and developing that trust through experiences. This is not "training" but is the journey of the D/s relationship.

Don't know if my 3 cents helps, but too often I hear people say or I read that a Dominant needs to train a submissive to do this or behave like that. What the Dominant really needs to do is be deep within their submissives' soul, so the two can learn to be "One". That can not be trained but is only felt.


SirW