Quote Originally Posted by SirW
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Don't know if my 3 cents helps, but too often I hear people say or I read that a Dominant needs to train a submissive to do this or behave like that. What the Dominant really needs to do is be deep within their submissives' soul, so the two can learn to be "One". That can not be trained but is only felt.
SirW
I think you both have been spot on with these observations. If you're only 'surface training', as you state, SirW, only a skill is taught. A lifestyle goes much deeper, on both parties' sides. D/s is an emotional tie between two.

BDSM, however, doesn't have to be. A slave can be taught to be slave to anyone; the attitude is only on one side, there.
chksng