Miss Ice what you have here is a theropist but without the $150 an hour quite the bargin if you think about it. You go and see him, discus your problems he gives corrective action and you walk away.
It could be considerd a DS relationship or it could move to more vanila but with corpral punishment.
I would think a dom or mistriss would take a deeper role your life. Require a larger comitment. Of course others would disagree. The main thing please be carefull. Lot of crazy people out there. Would not want you to get hurt.
I would recomend a munch to get to know some people other than just hooking up over a chat.