Hi--
I don't know where to stick this as it is rather long, and somewhat explicit, but since it does, more or less introduce myself, I guess I will have to risk putting it in here...
I am a divorced (after 22 yrs of marriage) male "religious monogamist" who is also very much into sexual submission/slavery fantasies, and limited (by what one can do to oneself) acting out of said fantasies. How's that for "Catholic Guilt", or in my case, Mormon??
I have been into bondage, and interrelated limited cross-dressing, for nearly as long as I can remember, way before the onset of puberty (contrary to Sigmund Freud, endorphin-based arrousal is possible b4 puberty). Long before I ever heard of either of the terms. I was at least aware enough at the time, that such behavior would spark a dim view in my parents, so I kept it a very closely guarded secret. I did confide in my fiance to some extent before we were married, but not all of it. She may have been ok with being occasiionally dominant, but had no interest in it becoming a lifestyle, and she detested and abhorred my cross-dressing. She couldn't understand, or didn't believe, that I had no interest in trying to "pass" as a woman--I was much more interested in the secret thrill from possible embarrassment (perhaps it is my chosen "risk-taking behavior" that psychologists warn every sane person muxt have in order to remain sane), I try to see just how close to the edge of discovery I can get without it actually happening. Not always successful...

Anyway, after 22 years and 5 great kids, she decided to call it quits, get herself PG with her boss (and kid number 6), and file for divorce. And I have been single, and celibate ever since, going on 7 years now.

Never been a fan of male bondage photos, just female ones--I fantasize that it is a "feminized" version of myself enduring it, or the tortures that follow; my wife never understood that either, unfortunately.

I am more of a self-torturer, rather than a self-bondagee--bondage is a means to an end for me, e.g. a means of exacerbating discomfort into eventual pain, through prolonged or REALLY uncomfortable or even painful bondage. A nearly universal thread in my fantasies, and sometimes enactment, is hunger and thirst, though the reality of dehydration stops the latter--the idea being to keep the slave extremely uncomfortable--cracked and bleeding lips, mouth dry as cotton, etc, but allowing enough water to keep him/her alive, perhaps by sucking it with a straw shoved roughly between the stitches that have sewn the lips together(!), or whatever.