Is a dominant ever wrong in a situation?

[Pandora's Box]

Well it sounds like you need to make a decision.

Is this situation okay with you? If not, then you need to say goodbye to him.

Don't just 'not talk to him again'. That's just plain rude. Especially since you've spent five months together. If you're going to break it off, then you need to tell him. Disappearing into the sunset is a flaky thing to do.

If it all comes down to what is this woman's role in his life, then point blank ask him those three things above. If he doesn't give you answers you're satisfied with, then you have your answer as to what you need to do.

[TeasedWhispers]

Yeah I will I am just basically going to do what he is doing, not live with an ex but start to date again...my dom and I never had sex, we just did alot of kinky stuff but it felt very close at the same time. If he wants to tell me everything he can but I am going to give him his space more of, date casually for not until he decides what he wants to do in the process.

Well it sounds like you need to make a decision.

Is this situation okay with you? If not, then you need to say goodbye to him.

Don't just 'not talk to him again'. That's just plain rude. Especially since you've spent five months together. If you're going to break it off, then you need to tell him. Disappearing into the sunset is a flaky thing to do.

If it all comes down to what is this woman's role in his life, then point blank ask him those three things above. If he doesn't give you answers you're satisfied with, then you have your answer as to what you need to do.

[Curtis]

Pandora's box has it right, and so has everyone else who's advising you to communicate. it's one thing to take a time-out to think things over, but if you don't talk, you'll never get anything resolved.

Basically, your friend has given you bad advise. "Avoid him until he says all he's feeling to me, and if he doesn't, just don't talk to him again." Let's think about that. If you're avoiding him, how's he going to tell you anything? My ex-girlfriend pulled this crap on me and it did was leave me feeling (four and a half years later) like things STILL aren't resolved between us. She's moved on, but I haven't been able to, and I may never be able to.

Ask questions -- specific questions. Listen to his answers. Tell him how you feel and why you're feeling that way. Ask again if you aren't getting relevant answers. Don't let him walk away until you've said all you came to say, and you've heard all that he has to say. You may not be happy, but you'll have closure.

And the question you should've asked is, "Is a friend ever wrong?" Yes, they are.

[TeasedWhispers]

Thank you for the advice, I pretty much emailed him everything I was thinking and feeling, pretty much everything that I've said here so he knows all...thanks again

Pandora's box has it right, and so has everyone else who's advising you to communicate. it's one thing to take a time-out to think things over, but if you don't talk, you'll never get anything resolved.

Basically, your friend has given you bad advise. "Avoid him until he says all he's feeling to me, and if he doesn't, just don't talk to him again." Let's think about that. If you're avoiding him, how's he going to tell you anything? My ex-girlfriend pulled this crap on me and it did was leave me feeling (four and a half years later) like things STILL aren't resolved between us. She's moved on, but I haven't been able to, and I may never be able to.

Ask questions -- specific questions. Listen to his answers. Tell him how you feel and why you're feeling that way. Ask again if you aren't getting relevant answers. Don't let him walk away until you've said all you came to say, and you've heard all that he has to say. You may not be happy, but you'll have closure.

And the question you should've asked is, "Is a friend ever wrong?" Yes, they are.

[TeasedWhispers]

Okay thanks for everything, I am happy than I was before to be without him,so all is good within me now

Thank you for the advice, I pretty much emailed him everything I was thinking and feeling, pretty much everything that I've said here so he knows all...thanks again