Agreeing with Tessa --

I don't think you're being offensive, lucyboy, just a little upset from your experience in a way that comes across as whiny.

I've certainly done the same myself when I'm feeling marginalized and put upon. But this group seems like an understanding bunch, and even those who have highlighted some of your words and said why they are too overgeneral, or why they disagree with them, have not been offended. And they mostly forgive the whiny-sounding bits and respond mostly to your good points.

And I think the discussion is helpful, so long as everyone's listening.

From another guy whose kink makes him unlikely to get what he wants any time soon, I'm wishing you the best of luck, and like I'm learning to have, PLENTY of patience and tolerance.