Tough question. BDSM for me is sexual, but it does not have to be, but that does not answer your question. Am I more sexual than my vanilla friends? that depoends on the freind. A persons sexual drive is either high or low, and has nothing to do with their desire for BDSM. My guess is that people in BDSM tend to have a hhigher sex drive, on average, than a vanilla person. But that is just an empirical observation, and i would not be able to support it at all.