Quote Originally Posted by ice
Ive just finished a relationship and have been getting into trouble and need someone to keep me in check at the moment. Minor things credit cards, speeding, bad attitude, that sort of thing.
i seriously hope i'm not speaking out of turn here...but the one person who you need to keep you in check with the way you conduct your life...is yourself. If you're not happy with some stuff you do (spending, attitude, whatever)...then you should work on correcting them...for yourself, not for someone else who happens to be holding a cane.

Please don't misunderstand me, i'm not trying to rain on your parade, as indeed, other stuff you say about how good a time you had with him, more than suggest that it felt good and hence WAS good...and certainly part of being a dominant is helping a submissive to...live more appropriately...but that's usually at their choosing (with discussion, obviously)..whereas this situation almost sounds like you're chalking up mistakes...so you get spanked...not only is that not dominant..but it isn't discipline either is it?? You don't need an excuse to get spanked in Ds...and i think you're possibly blurring the lines between basically getting off on spanking and possibly wanting to get into a Ds relationship...and wanting to sort your life/stuff that you're not happy with about yoursel out...since i don't know you, i have no idea of the possible reasons for needing an excuse to do stuff with this guy...but either way, you should perhaps seperate the two out prior to bringing them together....does that make sense? What i mean is, anygood dominant will help you with things you say you need help with, of course....but only once you decide you want a Ds relationship, quite apart from wanting help and discipline with the stuff you're not happy with about yourself.

Cripes, i hope that makes sense, please tell me if it doesn't though.

sl