defining punishment in my own head has to happen because if the punisher believes in useing canes and such for the punishment impliment, they wont get the desired effect nor will i be able to determine when punishment is actually that.

i need clear cut lines where this is the case...punishment is used to right my wrong doings, its NOT a good thing, so how can it be enacted in play? play is play, punishment is punishment and in my mind they dont cross at all, ever.