Certainly some sound advice Nightstriker, thanks.
Of course the issue of discussion is very important, and we do that a lot... however I am pretty sure she is holding back for fear of disgusting or shocking me with her ideas.
I have read some ideas (very good ones) in this forum which I will certainly try... thanks everyone for making me feel like I am not abnormal or perverted.

One further issue I have with my sub is knowing when to be serious and when not. She begs to be trained, but I fear there is also a lack of knowledge on my part as to what EXACTLY that means...
sometimes she is very submissive, willing to do just about anything, and other times I feel like I'm the one being disciplined when she's not in the mood... should I then try to put her in the mood with some sort of discipline?

and

When you speak of training and setting of rules, does that mean rules for living (including domestic care) or simply where it concerns your Dom's personal needs. As I allow my lady (yes Nightstriker I'm straight though that is not the issue) to speak her wishes she said: "please train me" ... heck! what could she mean with that ? personally, I have learnt a lot in a short time by reading a lot, surfing the net etc. but ... and perhaps some of you have noticed this as well... a lot of internet D/s tends to oversimplify the lifestyle, making it seem like there is some sort of magic recipe that everyone except me knows about, and that every sub / slave and Master have an exact idea of what they want and how to achieve it. In this forum I have seen signs of intelligent life, so I ain't going away till I have learnt a thing or two.

All comments appreciated

LB