Oh, Wolfy, thanks for answering so promptly - and so you know, I hadn't even registered the 'absolute' bit until today - which isn't what I was thinking about for this post, but it is another question, isn't it? My French is pretty damn good, but nevertheless I often don't understand things properly at the time he says them, and suddenly the next day I'll think oh THAT'S what he meant! This one has obviously taken a little longer...

I'm not at all sure how absolute his absolute his, actually - he certainly doesn't want a domestic slave, for example. And he doesn't expect me to be in sub role 100% of the time when we're physically together - although principally I am communcating with him only as his sub when on line. If I need to talk to him out of sub mode, I use his non-dominant address. So we may get a fair way - we can but try, after all.

I'm still confused about the how of achieving my submission, in this case: if he wants to take me places, he can't necessarily expect me to get there straight off: I do feel this is a form of coercion, and that seems wrong to me (as to you). Putting the absolute submission to one side - although I guess I can see the two are linked!! - how do I get him to understand that he is in fact using blackmail, and it's wrong?

What other training techniques might I suggest to him? What level of patience should a Master expect to show?

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That sort of thing.