MopTop:

i can understand your quandary... i have had similar questions in the past... i think .. if it were me, i would accept his choice of ..motivation.. as long as i could discuss my feelings with him. In my last relationship, there were no safewords, there were close to no limits, however, there was _nothing_ I could not discuss or ask Master about. He would always welcome my questions, concerns, and input as well as give feedback.

I think if your master brushes you off when you wish to discuss something important, I would not find that appropriate.

...just my opinion...