Question for all who are NOT "Switches"

[erotic_nibbles]

The idea has gone through my head a few times this last week or so. I've been going to workshops studying rope bondage techniques this last couple months and I would love to know what good bondage felt like. I would like to discover the head thing about it too and the sense of being helpless and vulnerable. I'm not sure about torture, especially if I've given good reason to be tortured! Alas my co-travellers are absolutely hopeless at tying ropes but I would be game for most things, even if reluctantly but I would try to put on a brave face.

No offense, but from your information listing I'm not sure.....so does this mean you are a Dom or a Domme and not submissive?

(dear God, did I really just tell you guys that?!

Yes you did and I'm so glad....Woohoo!....Are you sure you don't want to do that again?....and if you do can I watch?!

We gave it a shot--just to see. She absolutely hated the feeling of losing control—submission scared her and upset her. For me...well, she looked great, so that was a turn-on I guess, but the whole being in control and playing dominant just does nothing for me. I'm just not wired that way, in an erotic sense.

It's funny to me because I love M/f pictures, videos, stories—in fact I read them more than F/m ones—all a big turn on, but in a r/l scene I wanna be on the bottom.

That's cool that you tried it though...and now sounds like you have an even better understanding of your roles and how they fit each of you....as far as outside things that turn you on....there are lots of things that turn me on to watch or maybe see in a movie that I wouldn't want to do myself in real life

Mistress Ruby comes out to play - with permission, of course.

I really like your description:
Gender / BDSM Role: Fem/SelectivelySubmissive

Because it could also apply to me. I used to be a 24/7 dominant personality,
Topping from the bottom even when we played.

Thank you....I feel the same way and that's why I put that up...I try to be respectful to all Dom/me's, but I'm very particular about who I give myself to physically....even in chat it is hard for me because my mind gets into it so much that even a typed scene can really get to me mentally/emotionally and, therefore, physically

I would probably not object to to trying it out with my partner. I doubt that I would get that much fun out of it, though, since imagining myself taking a submissive sexual role does nothing for my libido...

But there is more to it. It might perplex my partner...So I don't want to give him a weird déjà vu for something I am not particularly interested in. I leave it to him. If he comes up with the idea one day, I will consider it. But, in the roles we are both happy to take, me in control, and he turning over control, there are still so many pleasures to explore... .

Again, I like that you both seem to have a good sense of who you are and where you belong in your relationship

Thank you all for sharing....this subject (and the other one I posted similar to this) are something that I think and wonder about a lot.....reading your posts helps me to define myself and what I want in a relationship better

~~nibbles~~