Question for all who are NOT "Switches"

[Ranai]

Again, I like that you both seem to have a good sense of who you are and where you belong in your relationship

We found out by doing, I suppose. But I don't want to give an erroneous impression: There are lots of things we are not certain about. I would say much of what we do is 'trial and error'. Which is fun, if one basically likes being together.

Of course, sometimes, it is 'trial and spot-on'.

Good luck to you, and enjoy the process of finding out more about your wishes and interests.