I'm new to all this and am glad that I found this thread and others like it. I've been doing research for a while and never even considered that there could be a difference between humiliation and degredation. I just thought that one was synonymous with the other and a key element in "play." I've been looking for a dom and in talking to several people, heard the term humiliation used often. Like others in this thread and everywhere else, I've had very negative associations with that term and I definitely know what it means to be humiliated. It's not a fun thing, but since I thought it was a definite must in a relationship, i've been hesitant to tell my prospective dom(s) that it's not much of a turn on and that it makes me uncomfortable. I'm glad to know what humiliation play is now and how very personal it should be and that it shouldn't be used at the very beginning of a relationship. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded to this as it's helped me a lot in learning to set the boundries every sub should have. Great Thread!!

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