Humiliation vs. Degradation

[Alex Bragi]

So why is the first thing said when discussion comes up about humiliation: “Oh, I don’t like humiliation,”? Because there is a huge misunderstanding about what humiliation really is. I found myself explaining the difference the other night when several submissives I know shook their heads and flat out said they hated humiliation and it was a hard limit for them.

Well, I've just been reading Pandykin's postings, and now I think, it's quite possible, the 'misunderstanding' might not always stem from the submissives. If he, or she, says, "No, I'm not into humiliation," there's every chance that's exactly what they mean. They just simply don't like that form of sexual play for some reason. It has little to do with trust and understanding. It's more about individual limits and, most important of all, respecting those limits in order to gain trust.

No. Master taught me the difference. He taught me TRUE humility and humiliation. And, he did it in a very uplifting way. I know, sounds like an oxymoron, uplifting humiliation.

No, this doesn't sound like an oxymoron at all. I feel that erotic humility and humiliation play is about being released from a sense of pride and prudishness that all too often bridles and restricts us. I think that's possibly why many subs express having a feeling of 'release' and 'liberation', a by submitting. It's, perhaps, that temporary loss of our own self worth and inhibitions that enable us to enjoy the experience a whole lot more. So, yes, I think 'uplifting humiliation' is a good way of saying it.