moptop

Sorry for the delay but without internet access it is tough to respond like I am used too.

First of you both need to take my check list for the life. You will find it in the bdsm knowledge threads. There is one there for the sub and one for the Dom. If you want this to last either online or flesh to flesh you have to know each others hard limits. Yes Doms have hard limits too.

This list will let you discuss with him the areas that could be trouble. Once a hard limit is set by my sub I will push it a little to see if it is a real limit or just one that scares my slave. Many of morgan's hard limits are gone since they were actually things that she wanted but felt that they were either beyond her or that no right thinking lady would ever do them. Now she begs for them!

He is the one using blackmail in your relationship since the threat of his leaving you is just that. I will tell my slave/subs that my releasing her is the ultimate punishment, I do not threaten her with it after explaining that her being without me is the worst thing I can do to her. No threat just the facts, and when she balks at a command she will be punished unless I am pushing her hard limit.

My job as her Dom\Master is to educate, train, help, comfort, lead and love my slave, I do all of these thing is very quiet subtle ways. Morgan could not stand either chains or metal handcuffs when we started, I love both of these, so one night when she was spread eagled on the bed and deep in sub space I told her I was laying chains on her. I did this without them being attached to anything, now she carries one of my chain collars in her purse so that when she is worried and out of sub space she go to the stall in a lady's room to put it on her, reminding herself that shows that she is my slave. This puts her back into a mild subspace and she continues with her day. The cuffs I put in her lap with 2 keys as I was heading home one day and told her to play with them. She loves them now too, but in both cases she had time to get to know them and there wonderful power in a none threatening manner.

Russell