Please Help: Subbie Ground Rules

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Welcome Eclipsed, I am not sure where you want to begin, I know for me, after much determination and research, I had decided to join this forum, it is amazingly wonderful and useful.

Me too ,wannabeXopsed. This site more or less started off my research in the first place!! It's the first place I've felt comfortable asking questions and what not!
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Now, with my online experience, each and every Dom/me/Master has there own idea's of how the want there sub/slave to perform, the best way to find out is to ask what they expect.

But what if he's not even very sure himself. I guess, I should wonder if it's a good idea start off in this lifestyle w/ someone who is still relatively inexperienced or if that should even matter... I know how I want to be treated and I want this to be a serious thing, not like casual dating. Do I put my foot down by saying, "no I want to slow down" and see what happens? I know I'm not prepared to be used and thrown away as u put it.
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So when you do go r/t, I would recommend first getting to know them first. If the first thing out of there mouth is "strip assume position" then I would run from the site immediately. Like I should of done.

What if it's the 2nd thing out of their mouth? lol
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Last but most important, meet him first in public, have a safe call to insure your saftey, anyone just so he knows you won't come up as a missing person, or even worse. Make sure someone knows his name and email and all pertinant info. YOU MUST BE SAFE!!

Hehehehe, I know it. My friends have told me that if it gets to point of a r/l meeting, they're going to fit me w/ every GPS tracking and homing device they can think of!! I don't think they think much of my common sense
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I hope this makes some sense. Time is on your side, and with some patience don't comprise yourself and accept everything he tells you as gospel. In a very nice submissive manner you should be able to challenge and ask questions at any time.

Thank you so much for responding... I was afraid I wasn't going to get anything until you and chksng19 and it's really nice to get a view point from both a dom and a sub. I really really appreciate it and you both have been extrodrinarily helpful. I hope I can return the favor some day.