Quote Originally Posted by Eclipsed
Can anyone help me with setting down ground rules and boundries in a new relationship?
Yes.

The first, and most important, part of any relationship, BDSM or not, is communication. You and he must each communicate your desires, wishes, likes and dislikes freely and openly. If you cannot do that, then your relationship will never be ask you would like it to be.

I recommend that you fill out an activity checklist, first and foremost. You an find a good one that is emailable at: http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/chk_questions.php3 That lets your potential dominant know immediately what your likes and dislikes are, what you are curious about doing, and what you won't do at all. Once you have completed a checklist, you may send it to your dominant and then you and he may discuss any items about which you have questions.

Since your relationship is online, you don't have to worry about several different kinds of things, like having him flog you at increasing levels of intensity to see how much you can take and at what stage it ceases to be enjoyable and just becomes painful. Still, online relationship require commitment, communication, and trust just like any other relationship.

For a more complete, step-by-step guide, you can view the Guide to Online Relationships at BDSM Library Dungeon. You might pay close attention to sections three, four, and five.

And remember, this should be enjoyable. If you're not having any fun, then something is probably wrong.