Quote Originally Posted by Eclipsed
Like the other day, I told him I was NOT into something in a pm and he used it as a way to punish me in the main room. Someone asked me if i was ok w/ all that. I told them not really, but i didn't hve much choice in the matter and they called me a "good subbie."


Nothing about that was "good" at all. The proper response in that situation would have been "No. I told you I don't like that." A submissive is not a doormat, and she should not have her feelings and opinions walked over as if she were.

Quote Originally Posted by Eclipsed
Is that an infringement of the whole hard limits and soft limits thing?
Yes.

Quote Originally Posted by Eclipsed
He seems very much into SCC, but sometimes he contradicts himself. And is it ok to use humiliation this early in the game. I read in another thread about the difference between humiliation and degredation, and what terms or details should be related to each. I'm not comfortable w/ humiliation play, so should I tell him not to, even though he likes it so much?
Eep! Still a little confused, but getting there slowly...
He doesn't seem all that much into SSC to me, if he can't be bothered to respect on of your simplest limits. That sort of blows that whole "consensual" thing out of the water.

And yes, you absolutely should tell him not to. No means no, even for submissives. Just because you are defined as a submissive does not give anyone that claims to be dominant rights to undermine your feelings and your sense of security. Stick up for yourself. If you are not comfortable in a situation, leave it.