I for one like to hear submissives thoughts and needs. While a daily helping would indicate to me a problem. In RL my experience tells me that its more likely to occure in the subtile ways Pandora discribes, cuffs or a hood sitting idely by or a flogger as a centerpiece at dinner. It also means I dont have to take her up on the offer if I'm not on the same page. But atleast I can acknowledge it and note it for tomorrow.

I'm not a mind reader and communication is a two way street. If I don't know whats on her mind I can't respond to it. A little suduction is great grease on the wheel.