Quote Originally Posted by Finding_Fantasy
The other is that I don't want to "be a bother." If he is doing something he is enjoying, like playing a game, I don't want to "disturb" him - even though he says it wouldn't.
This sounds like a comfort zone issue. Personal comfort, esteem etc. And in that sense... it's often best to try to take the risks to gain the rewards. I can't imagine TG ever saying "no I don't want to play", putting a video game above the interests of his wife.

In this sense, it seems like you are placing the video game etc above yourself. Not him. And using your concern (as his submissive) for him and his desires in order to not take the chance, to not face the fear of being rejected. Or even to avoid sex. Hard to say, but that's the feeling I get.

TG isn't a man that has his priorities all screwed up, or at least he doesn't seem to be. So I tend to think the issue lies within you. And it's something that you guys should explore. For your own happiness and for the happiness of your partnership.