Thanks for the advice. . .It does make sense, I just need to realize that this is what she wants too. Guilt is more because I enjoy it and feel selfish, I just need to realize its not just for me. Sort of had an epiphany today. . .Thanks for the advice! Has helped alot.

On a slightly seperate note, if anyone has any ideas for creative punishments that are not too painful (her pain tolerance is VERY low at the moment), please let me know!

Thanks so much! This board has been a huge help