Quote Originally Posted by dr_mabeuse
This thread reminds me of something I've wondered about, and that's how you reconcile your desire to have her as your lover and companion with your desire to have her as your slave.

Most of my BDSM activity is confied to the bedroom, or at least done in privacy. Other times I want her to be my equal. I want someone I can talk to and share things with. How do you do this in the context of a 24/7 relationship?

---dr.M.
For the most part, she is allowed more of an equal status, we talk like we are lovers, but if we disagree for instance the discussion only goes on for so long. Or if I have an order, like to clean a mess we made, then she does it. But things like sitting on the floor, referring to herself in the third person, and other things I have read about on this site and others, that are basically used to make her feel less then me, are really only enforced in the bedroom. Outside of the bedroom she is always working to please me, but we talk and cuddle as equals.