Quote Originally Posted by dr_mabeuse
You were operating under a triple handicap. First of all, this person doesn't sound they're very demonstrative, so it must have been hard to tell how what you were doing affected them, so you were essentially flying blind. Secondly, you weren't sure about your techniques, and that must have produced considerable anxiety on your part. And thirdly, being a Domme was a new experience to you, so you didn't have a large repetoire of techniques to draw upon as the situation demanded. No wonder you wanted to script everything out. You wanted to know what to do, how to do it, and when it should be done. All that's perfectly understandable, and what you recount sounds like a typical first-time experience. Yes, Doms get nervous too. (I wonder if you knew that?)


If it's something entirely new, there's often a considerable amount of fumbling around and false starts - even laughter, as WW says. But the most important thing for me is that I know how she feels throughout the experience. I can't imagine doing it any other way.

---dr.M.
Hi, and thanks!

On the triple handicap thing ......... I never thought about it that way. Yes, you're right though. The tough part is that I'm quite demonstrative, and as we've mentioned he's not, so it was a little foreign to me. I also think that was part of the reason I didn't quite get as much into it as I might have. (Hell, or maybe not, who knows.) I did my best to read the reactions he did have, and talk and keep him engaged, so .... *shrug*

And yes, I thought everyone got a little nervous trying new things, but you don't see much of "this" type of discussion, so I appreciate the confirmation.

We've talked but only briefly, so I'm long since over worrying about it. It may or may not happen again, and honestly right now I think I'll be equally happy either way. Unless of course we get together again and it's just amazing. Notice me not holding my breath. *chuckle*