thanks for the welcome!!

i agree, the annonimity is nice, especially if you are exploring and learning.
but he was so adomant about someone's appearance, that i thought a reminder or two would be helpful

it is one thing to present yourself one way, and another to be able to show yourself as you really are. in the case of weight, if you are ever going to meet, you will see this for yourself, so being upfront is the best choice i would think.

and since there are people here who are looking to meet eventually, i would hope that honesty was more the norm, not the exception.

thanks again for the welcome, sorry, if i was on a soapbox, being snowed in has made me a tad grumpy i think