Quote Originally Posted by myri_SN
i dont think there are any more 'fat' woman in bdsm than there are in nilla life.
I've probably said this before, but it bears repeating (after all, I said it ). I don't think there are more big women into BDSM, but I think there are more who are out in public spaces, presenting themselves as proud and sexy people.

The reason is that BDSM sexiness is about what's in your head and how you express it - your dominance, your submission, your capacity for taking or inflicting pain, how you build fantasies - and only secondarily, if at all, about how you fit conventional sterotypes of looks. So women who would be ashamed to show themselves if they were held to vanilla standards can step out proudly and say "I am a great slave/Mistress/painslut/nameyourfetish," and know that nobody (except the odd moron like the one who started this thread) will just say "Eeww, you're FAAAT!"

One of the things I like about this community