Hi egwmilaw,

One suggestion I can offer is that you visit www.meo-team.com , select your language of choice, and look around what they have under
> cock play.

Perhaps some other sections are of interest to you, too. The advantage is that they offer descriptions that may come in useful, regardless of where you actually go and buy your toys. They also have BDSM literature with ideas on play and safety tips, but it's all in German...

Maybe someone else on this forum can supply info about BDSM groups in your region, or helpful book titles: what language do you need?

Enjoy!