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and/or how do deal with any guilt I might feel after for hurting the woman I love. Even though I know she wants to be disciplined and taught how to be a good slave, I am afraid of becoming abusive towards. . .How do you know when you have crossed the line? [/FONT][/SIZE][/QUOTE]

This is a fairly common issue that many Dominanats have. From the submissive side of the fence maybe i can give you perspective that will help the guilt. We don't feel hurt when we are punished-- we feel loved, cared for, paid attention to. It helps center and focus us. We want to serve and when we fall short of expectations *we* have guilt. Part of atonement for us is getting punished--the incident is over and the relationship moves on.

Hope that helps some..
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