Crikey...well done, LTP, it is SO hard to let go of a relationship, even one you suspect isn't fair or good for you...especially when it's tied in with sexuality...i have a serious amount of respect for you for doing it.

i'm tempted to suggest just not writing to him at all, but you're right, that would be to bring yourself to his level, just write and tell him you're ending the relationship, i'd definitely not suggest being friends, it gives him a chance to get his foot back in the door and hints at a weakness that he could exploit. Plus, who the hell would want a friend like that, you're far too good for him, even in a friendship capacity.

When you feel that gap in your life for a while and miss him (not meaning to sound depressing, but you will)...come and read this thread and talk to us lot.

Love

lucy x