[QUOTE=slavelucy]Good question.

i voted no because i can't ever imagine myself initiating a scene in an obvious sense. i'm not sure if this is because of past experiences of both BDSM and vanilla in that i hate the idea of being rejected, and i suspect this is something which may change over time, but right now, no, i wouldn't initiate it.........
Having said that, i'm not sure one has to initiate it in an official capacity to be actually initiating it...i may well , sort of, imply that i'm up for it or give him a look or something (does that make any sense?). QUOTE

Lucy, you yourself have in a previous post, perhaps unintentionally, already invented the perfect word for a sub in this situation. When you are up for it and give him a look , you are being " inciteful", ( to incite= to move to action , to stir up ).