Mistakes by a Dom/me

[Ozme52]

I've often been sorry about being too lenient...

[Ocean_Soul]

I've often been sorry about being too lenient...

I have a similar problem. I say sorry too often. Comes with being Canadian.

... Is that relevant to the thread?

[Rhabbi]

You call that proper groveling?

Not at all, just an honest statement. Actually I know of a person on another forum who is exactly what I was talking about. No one "deserves" to have someone support them. As Mark Twain once said:

Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.

[Rhabbi]

I've often been sorry about being too lenient...

I know exactly what you mean. It ends up causing more problems later.

[ThisYouWillDo]

If I make a mistake, I apologise. That's it. It's no more than common decency. I was brought up that way and it's far too late to change, supposing I wanted to change for the worse.

The nature of my apology depends upon the nature of the mistake. I bump into someone, I say "sorry" and think no more of it. If I do something more serious, my apology will be more thoughtful and proportionate.

In a way, an apology is an attempt to wipe out the mistake, or to put it aside, with mutual agreement. If an apology does not achieve the desired result, or forgiveness cannot be obtained, then maybe a further apology will do the trick. There comes a point, however, when refusal to accept an aopology is counterproductive and all apologies are withdrawn. This can result in open hostility - and ruin a relationship if one is involved.

So, apologise, so far as is reasonable, then F^ck them!

TYWD

PS LMAO @ message 28

[anonymouse]

Rhabbi, I'm wondering what exactly you meant by 'mistake' in your first post? I think I know but perhaps you could clarify it a little. You may remember me mentioning 'clumsy Dom' in another thread a while back. He (accidentally) trampled my feet throughout a scene - a mistake to be sure, but one of comic proportions. I don't imagine this is the kind of mistake you're referring to.

I'm struggling to recall any particular instances of personal experience that might be regarded as a 'mistake'. There have probably been plenty but obviously, whatever resolution was reached must have been the right one because I can't remember any. I can say that I was married to my Dom at the time and so those 'mistakes' would likely have been dealt with in the same way as any other 'mistake' in our relationship, which is to say sincerely and in private. While we played publicly, and undoubtedly 'mistakes' occured in public, our relationship was such that resolution of these was always done privately. We were never ones that felt compelled to 'air our dirty linen in public', so to speak.

[Rhabbi]

Rhabbi, I'm wondering what exactly you meant by 'mistake' in your first post? I think I know but perhaps you could clarify it a little. You may remember me mentioning 'clumsy Dom' in another thread a while back. He (accidentally) trampled my feet throughout a scene - a mistake to be sure, but one of comic proportions. I don't imagine this is the kind of mistake you're referring to.

I'm struggling to recall any particular instances of personal experience that might be regarded as a 'mistake'. There have probably been plenty but obviously, whatever resolution was reached must have been the right one because I can't remember any. I can say that I was married to my Dom at the time and so those 'mistakes' would likely have been dealt with in the same way as any other 'mistake' in our relationship, which is to say sincerely and in private. While we played publicly, and undoubtedly 'mistakes' occured in public, our relationship was such that resolution of these was always done privately. We were never ones that felt compelled to 'air our dirty linen in public', so to speak.

I do not remember exactly whta prompted me to start this thread, I do know that somehting happened between Mishka and myself that rpompted a need to apologiize, and since the mistake actually happened in public I was willing to admit my mistake in public. She convinced me that I should just let it go and that a private and sincere apology was appropiate.

[anonymouse]

Ah! Ok

Mishka's reasoning sounds a lot like mine too.

[Rhabbi]

Yes, she is intelligent. After all, she did pick me.

[violet girl{MM}]

Yes, she is intelligent. After all, she did pick me.

i thought You picked her...

[anonymouse]

Yes, she is intelligent. After all, she did pick me.

hehe - well, there is that too

[Rhabbi]

i thought You picked her...

I did, but she picked me too.

[Missokyst]

I never got why it might be out of place to apologize. I am not perfect, I don't know anyone who is perfect. Mistakes happen. If something happens which deserves an apology then it is common courtesy to offer one. We are all human, be we dom or sub, and no title comes before that. Grovelling though.. nah. That is demeaning.
Kyst