BDSM Titles Chamber of Oddities

[Ranai]

Hmmm. Interesting.
I suppose titles can be convenient in a chatroom environment as an easy-to-recognise signal of a role one wants to take?

I have read about people using the freedom of the internet to appear sometimes as this, sometimes as that gender (and I would not see a problem in it, as long as everyone knows that what is going on is role play).

A question out of curiosity from someone without chatroom experience: How do switches identify themselves, if at all? Or do you just use neutral names? Or has someone perhaps recognised some individuals with the same mannerisms, who sometimes turned up as Sir [insert fancy name], and sometimes as slave [insert other fancy name]?

And how about real life BDSM meetings. Do switches simply use their names?

[LBoolean]

it is nice to know that someone else has these thoughts.
Personally I am having quite a time imagining myself using certain terms... Master for example sounds a bit like "Riff Raff" from Rocky Horror... and I look nothing like Tim Curry in drag (not that I've dressed in drag to compare, this is an educated guess)...

What bugged me in the beginning (as a dom) was calling my sub things like "Slut" etc. You get used to it when you see the grand reaction though...

I suppose in German you could try: " Mein Gebieter" ....

anyhow, as long as you got the rest right I guess you could call each other whatever you feel comfortable with...

L

[Ranai]

it is nice to know that someone else has these thoughts.

Same here.

Master for example sounds a bit like "Riff Raff" from Rocky Horror...

Riff Raff – pretty high ranking on a scale of fatally ludicrous associations! Not the sub of everyone's dreams for sure. Doesn't this balding minion even get whipped at some point for commiting some mistake or other?

'Gebieter' , or in my case 'Gebieterin' – hmmmm yes, not bad. Formal, removed from everyday speech, but not totally pompous. Refers directly to command and authority. And... nope, no ridiculous connotation, at least not for me. Will wonders never cease.

What bugged me in the beginning (as a dom) was calling my sub things like "Slut" etc. You get used to it when you see the grand reaction though...

Good that it works well for you! Personally I am not a real fan of verbal humiliation, and I doubt that I will ever be. I do however like the idea of respectful speech towards the dominant very much. As long as the respectful address does not get totally sabotaged by odd associations...

Come to think of it, if verbal humiliation is the technique of symbolically pushing down the submissive, how do we call the technique of symbolically pushing up the dominant by means of titles and such? Verbal elevation?

[LBoolean]

Same here.


Riff Raff – pretty high ranking on a scale of fatally ludicrous associations! Not the sub of everyone's dreams for sure. Doesn't this balding minion even get whipped at some point for committing some mistake or other?

true, he gets whipped for letting rocky loose... OK, so I am a bit more than averagely acquainted with the Rocky Horror... but I agree, Riff raff as a sub would be quite horrid.

"Gebieterin".... glad to help with one or the other wonder.

actually verbal humiliation does not work THAT well for me... but it does excite the poo out of my subby... whereas we are still working on her calling me something other than my name and or god...
master, sir and other names have fallen a bit short of sounding serious... so I'm still on the lookout. With that said, much like yourself, I am really fond of respectful speech towards the D.... which constantly provides my sub with reasons for discipline as she tends to forget this.

"Verbal elevation"... congrats R, I think you have just coined a phrase!
I like it, as long as the verbal elevation does not become patronising.

In the long and the short of things, call me Mrs. Mabusa for all I care, as long as the respect is evident in what is said and done I am one happy dom.

Rgds
LB

[craftygirl]

Hmmm. Interesting.
I suppose titles can be convenient in a chatroom environment as an easy-to-recognise signal of a role one wants to take?

I have read about people using the freedom of the internet to appear sometimes as this, sometimes as that gender (and I would not see a problem in it, as long as everyone knows that what is going on is role play).

A question out of curiosity from someone without chatroom experience: How do switches identify themselves, if at all? Or do you just use neutral names? Or has someone perhaps recognised some individuals with the same mannerisms, who sometimes turned up as Sir [insert fancy name], and sometimes as slave [insert other fancy name]?

And how about real life BDSM meetings. Do switches simply use their names?

Weeeeeeelllllllllllllllllll.............

I'm not entirely sure of the protocol on this one but seeing as how I am rarely comfortable taking any sort of role in a chatroom other than 'person there to talk to other people', I tend to use the nickname I've been using since my mom gave it to me when I was 18 or 19: craftygirl. I dunno it if sounds sort of subbie or not (girl and all) but it just suits me.

RL events.... I couldn't keep a straight face calling myself Lady Shannon or Mistress Shannon or subbie shannon so I just stick to my first name, Shannon. There is one switch that I know of in a local group who uses Lady and her first name ......

That being said, I also tend to be very fluid in my interactions with people and am very much a go-with-the-flow person, so I feel like any title limits me somewhat in people's expectations of how I will act. And role play is just not my thing. *shrug* So Shannon it is. :-)

Edit to add this: when I am playing with someone, I address him as Sir if I'm on bottom ... he calls me whatever he wants of course......one of my friends calls me, simply, "girl." I actually like that quite a bit. If I'm topping, then I have him (different guy) call me Ma'am but sometimes one boy I know throws in Mistress, and that is OK by me too. But the Sir Ma'am thing also hearkens back to my conversative religious and Southern upbringing, so it's comfortable and familiar.