Welcome Jade,

You do have a well developed character and I certainly hope that kind of crap didn't happen to you in real life. :yuck:

Meanwhile, it seems from reading your missive, that your best role might be as an observer and willing servant. You can meet a few people of the dungeon, ask them questions, and volunteer for trying things out.

Your white collar protects you from actual sex, yet lets you explore the submissive side of yourself. If you so desire, you can also help Ruby give tasks / punishments to her lovely slaves (sometimes pets).
They like to play rough and you might ask them to describe what they are feeling as they "enact" these scenes. I've found their descriptions to be quite the turn-on.

Read your private note and can tell you that having you as a fellow dominant would be fine.

At the moment - we aren't doing any "boy-boy" stuff in the dungeon. But if your friend Vic is on the table, you might let him leave or have him volunteer for the collar color he prefers. I and others do write boy-boy scenes and perhaps if we added a warning for the flaming hetero's this would be okay.
Or we could put those scenes in another thread. (Come to think of it, that might be a very good idea - both Elizabeth and Yuri would be willing to play with your friend who is a boy.)

Off to work in the real world,

Ruby