Hey sweetie,

First, I owe you an apology for not getting to this thread WAY sooner than now. School has been crazy, but I still think it's important to put friends first and I haven't done as well as I should have with that, so I'm sorry, love. I've been thinking about you though...

At this point, let me just add a big "what they said". You are a lovely, intelligent, thoughtful woman who will make an excellent sub, if you so choose, for a dom somewhere that actually deserves you. Congrats on breaking it off for good...I know how tough that can be. Thanks also for sharing with us; it's great having you here!!

BTW, it sounds like you already know much, much more about how bdsm relationships (and relationships in general) are supposed to work than he probably ever will, so please, please don't let his clinging, obnoxious behavior and replies make you doubt yourself. He has some nerve trying to tell you how bdsm "works" considering his lack of respect and inability to take responsibility for his own behavior. You are amazing and I'm so glad you're standing up for yourself.

I hope things are going as well as possible for you with school and life. Hopefully we can find time to meet for lunch again before too long.

eb