Quote Originally Posted by Pandora's Box

But what I think makes the true difference is effort. People have to try. Relationships are work. They don't 'just happen'. The people involved have to not only have the 'spark' but they have to work to maintain that spark.

A lot of people don't really get that. Between Cinderella, Hollywood and our culture that expects instant results... there's a lot of misguided people out there.

Love without effort is just a sentiment without actions.

To my shame, I went along with it far too long. To my pride, I got away from it and have vowed not to let it happen again. To my hope, I try to keep that promise to myself. To my joy, so far I have.

Allow yourself to feel the anger. If you are like me, on some level you feel betrayed. That anger is what kept me strong when I felt the most weak. It's okay to be angry. Just like it's okay to feel sad. But it is your anger, not your sorrow, that will see you through the hard times.

The anger will pass and after it does, with the help of compassionate friends, you'll be able to rebuild.

You have a beautiful way with words Pandora...And you always know exactly what to say! Bravo to you for the "so far I have!"

I'm ready for that ager to set in....it would really be nice to be mad and not to have all this aching inside! But you have told me it will come...so I will patiently wait! Thanks again Pandy! Hugs to you from me for being here for me!!