i've never been unfortunate enough to be a family member of a victim or friend of a victim so i can't tell how i would react in a situation such as that, Kate...i sympathise with you deeply...that being said, and i understand the need for closure and justice...would the death of the perpatrator (sp) grr would the death actually bring relief in the long run? would you finally then be able to accept what happened? would it bring the closure you seek....i don't know myself....it won't bring the loved one back...i do understand the idea of how can the killer etc. breathe fresh air when the one i loved is dead...