Very good question For a while I was wondering the same thing. I like how you put it, with the chocolate chips.

As everyone else said, it's your own balance. What is 80% to you, might be 40% to another person. Depends on your knowledge and interest. Too many factors to involve here.

I know that I would like to delve much farther into a bdsm D/s relationship, I just have to find someone else willing to take that journey with me.