Bad thing is, I think in retrospect he was wanting reassurance that he was still beloved. I tend to want more space when we're in "thinking" mode and he wants to know we're still top/bottom, mistress/slave, domme/sub.

So I feel like I failed him, but also annoyed that he feels so hurt and rejected.

*sigh*

thanks guys, I think I might maintain this thread for a while to spout off some thoughts.