I'm just guessing, really, because I don't know your situation. I consider myself needy, and people like me need constant reassurance that whatever your problem is, isn't me. Maybe when you're not in the mood and distant, he feels like he's failed you in some way. He just wants to make you feel better. If he can't make you feel better, what hope does he have of ever pleasing you? Sometimes, we just need to know that it's not our fault, and things will get better soon. I know when I'm under stress, I crave more attention while he seems to want less. This, of course, is frustrating. I think making him sleep on the floor or chained to the foot of the bed would give him a little something....you know....instead of just ignoring him completely.