BDSM Blacks

[Alex Bragi]

The number of replies to this thread interests me almost as much as the actual replies. I honestly thought this one might be one of those 'hot potatoes' nobody wanted to touch.

From personal experience, I am white female who has slept with a few black men in my life. And yes, they are bigger! LOL

Well, at least we've clarified one point. *gg*

Alex, can i just clarify something, are you referring specifically to black people or to any other ethnic groups?

I'm referring, specificaly, to dark skinned African-Americans.

i only ask because over here in the UK, you'd be shot at dawn for using the term 'coloured' as it's considered to be VERY un-PC. i appreciate you're NOT from the UK, but you can imagine what it was like for me to read your initial post!! ...

Well, lucy, to be absolutely honest, living down here in my layback little corner of Australia, I really do find it difficult to relate to what it was like for you. Why are 'coloured' and 'black' such dirty words? I went to uni with an African man - a coloured man, whose skin and hair were literally black. Would it be politically correct to say he had black hair? I tell you something else, he had, the whitest teeth I have ever seen. He was a coloured man with black hair and white teeth -- and a really big... smile.

I actually prefer to use African-American because it doesn't refer to a color, but a culture (which can be related to behavioral patterns), whereas color doesn't predetermine norms of behavior.

Interesting. I happen to be of Dansih descent- I look like I just jumped off a longboat. So, do I call myself a Danish-Australian or a white woman? Neither, I'm Australian -- a white Australian female.

Do I notice what colouring other people are? Sure I do. Just like I notice what they are wearing, their mannerisms, their speech, etc.

But, I degress, this thread is about racial (sexual) differences rather than (anti)racism.

Curtis, sent me this yesterday and I'm sure he won't mind me posting it here. Like much of what he sends me, I found it extremely interesting.

"A quarter of a century ago, back when I used to spend a fair amount of
time reading psychology journals, some studies were done showing that
of the four main racial/gender groupings at that time in the U.S.,
black women were the most socially/interpersonally dominant (no measure
at that time of sexual dominance), followed in order by white men and
white women, with black men being the most submissive. They proved
this by watching pairs and groups of people interact in controlled
situations via closed-circuit TV and seeing who spoke first, who spoke
most, who was interrupted least, who's opinions prevailed most often,
who got to decide what channel to watch on TV, who had the most
controlling (and most subservient) body language and eye contact and so
forth. There were several of these studies done, and the only
differences in their findings were that some ranked black women and
white men equally while most put black women slightly ahead, but both
were well ahead of white women, who were in turn well ahead of black
men. It's interesting that these studies were conducted during the
'angry black man'/'black power' period of the late 70s and early 80s.
I'd venture to speculate that if they did it again today (first of all
they'd probably add Hispanics, Orientals and Indians as extra
categories), they might find that black women have dropped and black
men have risen.

Which may be why blacks are no longer as angry." ~ Curtis.

Actually, what I said was that black people on the whole do not tend to get involved in BDSM. I know there are some that do, but as a race, they seem to be well in the minority.

Gez, aren't you the picky one! *gg* But I was pretty close wasn't I? I just couldn't remember exactly what you had said.