Interesting thread that raises interesting questions. I come from the school of thought that says no one can make you feel anything. In this instance you feel guilty because you think you haven't met his needs. In my opinion (and that's all it is) this is a choice you make. Just as his choice is to feel wounded and think perhaps you don't want his worship or whatever the trigger is for his choice.

In all my relationships I encourage my partners to take responsibility/own their feelings as I try to do for mine. And I have found more often than not the way they are feeling has nothing to do with what I may or may not have done and vice versa. I have also found that when we blame other people for our lousy moods it usually stems from a victim mentality.

Perspective also tends to become warped when we are feeling less than on top of things whatever the reason. And since I have adopted the technique of trying to see things from others points of view I find I am less likely to blame others for the way I feel, in turn it helps them to a place where they are empowered to do the same for themselves.

I'm not saying I'm perfect by any stretch of the imagination but I'm able to deal with negative emotions in a far more positive way than I ever was. This in turn helps me to be far more in control of situations than I ever have been. Communication is omnipotent when it comes to relationships. If you want any sort of relationship to work on any level communication is a must. Just my opinion for what it's worth.