thebiggame,

First, I think that the first thing you need to know is that you are not alone. There are Christians out there that believe in FemDom. http://www.geocities.com/beth_zur/ is a ministry that is dedicated to the lifestyle and to Christianity.

As for your wife, you really need to talk to her. This is going to be the hard part, but take it one step at a time. Talk to her about different aspects of your life together. This will take a lot of time and patience, and may not work, but if it does it is worth the effort.